In Defense of "Do Overs"

We've all been asked the question—be it at a summer camp overnight or, infinitely less appealing, with new colleagues: If you could have one superpower, what would it be? My typical answer used to be the ability to fly, but I think the beginning of 2017 has given light to an entirely new response: the ability to rewind life and fix something that went horribly wrong. I'll call it: Adele Potion. Warren Beatty (or more so Brian Cullinan of PwC who handed Beatty the wrong envelope) would have certainly benefited from a shot of it at the Oscars... 

And if you watched this year's Grammys, you understand why Adele deserves the potion's namesake. The Record-Of-The-Year winner, already superhuman in many ways, delivered a feat that brought her to a new level of inspiring in my book: She started her tribute to the late George Michael, wasn't happy with her performance, requested a restart, and subsequently nailed it. She pressed rewind on herself, because, why the fuck not? Who's to say that's not allowed? We're all flawed and mistake prone, we just rarely have the courage to admit to our faults and correct ourselves. Yes, what's done is done and some things can never be changed—but compassion is what makes humans human, so why not flex that evolved muscle of ours and show it to others when they need a second chance? I applaud any effort to break free of comfort zones, to take great leaps without the suggested footwear. With no risk comes no reward. 

In my 28 years, I'm fortunate enough to never have had the need to sip the potion in a big way—I've had it pretty good. But, I'm in the midst of doing something a bit crazy: leaving the beautiful, full and happy life I built for myself in New York behind in search of beachier, more liberated and unknown pastures. It's about the most unedited thing I've ever attempted to do, without a magic 8-ball to offer advice. And I'd be insane not to be a bit nervous. But hey, if the juice really isn't worth the squeeze, then I will be very ready to call my own bullshit. To reverse the wheels and replay the tape without fear of retribution. So, why discredit the attempt? If at first you don't succeed... 

Maybe it's not a magic potion we need after all, maybe it's just the ability to acknowledge when we do screw up and do our best to take a step back without feeling any shame. Because hey, if it works for Adele...